Let's Just Get One Thing Straight

I will never be a woman with the perfect hair, 
or the perfect skin with the perfect make-up, 
or the perfect body in the perfect outfit.

I will never have the perfect man, 
or the perfect children, 
or the perfect tiny dog.

I will never drive the perfect car, 
live in the perfect home, 
or work the perfect job.

I will never be the woman you want or expect me to become.
I will never take the path you think I should take.
I will never live my life the way you'd like me to.

I will never do or be these things because that is not who I am,
because your idea of me is not me,
because this is MY life.

The Pros & Cons of Being Single

Alright, there are times when being single is awesome and I am so glad to not have to deal with another person's shit because, quite frankly, sometimes mine is more than enough. And then there are other times when, well, when it just sucks. I'm sure there's a more eloquent way to put it, but I'm in a no-bullshit sort of mood, so let's just cut to the chase and say that it sucks because sometimes it does. You know what I mean, we've all been here. 

But, as always, it's a double edged sword, two sides of the same coin, however you want to say it. My mom, in her infinite wisdom,  would say that you can't have your cake and eat it too. And while I don't really agree with that statement I do understand what she's getting at, you can't always have it both ways.

And the thing is, I get it. I can't expect to come home from a long day at work and be quiet and not interact with anyone else until I'm good and ready to, and also have someone to cuddle into bed with. That's just being rude to the other person and no one wants that! There's this whole compromise thing, and well let's face it, sometimes that sucks, too.

When you are single you get the freedom to be as selfish as you want because there is no one else to think about but you. When you're in a relationship you have to think about how your actions will affect the other person. And then there's the balancing act of taking into consideration your happiness as well as your partner's. *Sigh* It's no wonder we all seem to have a hard time with this relationship-thing!

Also, on a side note, as I was looking for an image of a double-edged sword to make this post more visually stimulating for you, I got totally distracted by this hilarious rant! Here's the link, check it out because I think you will all enjoy it:

The Stupidest "Wise" Sayings Known to Man and How to Improve Them

Good Night!

Patience

No one ever said I was a patient person, but it seems that the world won't stop trying to teach me.  I suppose this is a good thing, I've heard that patience is a virtue, but my God waiting is irritating!!

*sigh*

OK, so I am trying to learn to let life happen at it's own pace, you know, go with the flow.  Sometimes this is easier than others.  I wish I was one of those easy-going people that just did this naturally but I'm just not and never have been so I find myself facing a bit of a learning curve.  What it comes down to is that I don't know how to wait patiently.  I feel like I should be doing something to work towards what I want and if I'm not then I'll never get it.

I want what I want.  And I want it now.  What's the problem with that?

I think the problem is that sometimes I can want something and not be ready to have it.  Perhaps patience is really just a way to let my heart and mind get in line with what I want.  Maybe I'm not waiting for the world to catch up to my desires but I'm waiting for me to catch up to what I think I want.  And that is probably a good thing.

I mean, imagine having a baby the day you found out you were pregnant.  That's just crazy, you totally wouldn't be ready to be a parent.  Parent's need the nine months to prepare themselves for the coming bundle of joy as much as the child needs it to grow into a fully formed healthy baby.

I think it takes time to reconcile yourself, your heart and mind and spirit, with what is happening in your world.  And you have to be patient with yourself to let this happen.